If you’re breathing air into your lungs you’ve probably wondered, “what questions should I ask in x,y, or z situation?” Coming up with the right questions for the many different scenarios life throws our way can be tough.
Enter this list of 108 questions.
We’ve come up with good questions that’ll work no matter your audience. From fun to downright tough, we’ve got your question asking needs covered.
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- Powerful Questions
- Open Ended Questions
- Interesting Questions
- Deep Questions
- Personal Questions
- Faith Questions
- Thought Provoking Questions
- Spiritual Growth Questions
- Fun Questions
- Get to Know You Questions
- Questions for Someone Who’s Struggling
- Empathy Questions
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This type of question helps you understand the other person while also giving you information to ask other follow-up questions.
- What kind of self-talk are you having with yourself about this?
- Do you want to live life the easy or hard way and why?
- Has anything unexplainable ever happened to you?
- Would you rather be rich and lonely or poor with great family and friends?
- How would you spend today if you knew you were going to die tomorrow?
- What’s something you do on a regular basis and secretly despise doing?
- Why do you do it?
- Why are people so good at doing things that are bad for them?
- Is trust something that is offered or earned?
- Is it easier to love or to hate?
Open Ended Questions
Asking good open ended questions can be a great conversation starter as well as a way to get to know people better. Open Ended questions are questions that can’t be answered with a simple ‘yes’, ‘no’, or static response.
- What’s something you’d fight or die for?
- What is your biggest dream in life?
- What event in life has shaped you the most, and how did it do so?
- Why might suffering be an important part of being human?
- Where do thoughts come from?
- What questions do you believe are better left unanswered?
- Why do we like what we like and dislike what we dislike?
- Why do bad things happen to good people?
- How do you define community?
These questions are designed to do just as what the definition of interesting states – arouse curiosity or interest; hold or catch attention. Who knows what asking these questions will open up.
- What’s something your mother or father taught you that’s completely changed your life?
- Do you think it’s possible for men and women to just ‘be friends’?
- Why or why not?
- When you’re home alone, how do you like to spend your time?
- If you could have a conversation with anyone, alive or dead, who would it be and why?
- Is it possible to ‘create’ something new, or is it just that we discover that thing?
- If a day can go by quickly and also drag, is time actually real?
- How old do you feel on the inside and why?
The purpose of deep questions is to dig below the surface. The questions in this section could be used in a variety of circumstances, making them a great part of your question toolbox.
- What personal biases do you have that keep you from finding the truth?
- Do you think you’re making excuses instead of facing x,y, or z?
- If you could do one thing in line over, what would it be and why?
- What difference would it make if you felt completely safe, accepted, and loved?
- Who’s the last person you treated in a way you regret?
- What would you do over?
- Do you think you’re a genuinely good person and why or why not?
- Can anything be considered ‘true’ or is everything subjective?
- Given the ripple effect of our actions across time, how can we be sure we’re doing the right things?
- If you do a good deed in order to feel good about it, is it kindness or business and does it matter?
The point of personal questions is to get to know someone better. This could be a new friend, a potential love interest, or a new person at work.
- What matters most to you?
- What’s a dream you have that you’ve yet to achieve?
- What things about you do people usually/always misunderstand?
- What are you most afraid of?
- What are you most proud and ashamed of?
- Do you feel like your parents raised you well?
- Why or why not?
- What is your biggest flaw and your biggest strength?
- Are you truly happy?
- Have you ever been in love? Or if married
- What do you love most about your spouse?
These questions help you determine how a person believes. They aren’t specific to any one faith.
Use them to get to know how others believe and to open doors for sharing Christ.
- Where did life come from?
- Do you believe something happened that messed everything up?
- What and why?
- Can anything fix life as we know it?
- If so, what and how?
- What do you believe happens after a person dies? Explain.
- Do you have any spiritual or religious beliefs?
- Do you go somewhere to connect with the holy?
- Do you believe in forgiveness?
- If so, how do you believe it works?
- If no, why not?
- What do you think of prayer?
- Do you do it and why or why not?
- Do you think it matters if a person attends church?
- Why or why not?
Thought Provoking Questions
These questions are designed to do one thing – make you think.
Try asking yourself these questions to see just how much thought goes into answering them.
Have fun – there’s a world of conversation possibilities wrapped up in great questions like these.
- What kind of questions make you most uncomfortable?
- Who do you wish you could be right now?
- What are you most grateful for today?
- If you couldn’t start a conversation with “how are you today/doing?” what would you ask instead?
- How do you want remembered at your funeral?
- If everything we know is subject to debate, is there such a thing as knowledge?
- Is there such a thing as your real self or does self change as time passes and given the circumstances you’re in?
- When you meet someone new, do you start by trusting or distrusting them?
- Is a bond between a mother and child stronger than between a father and child?
- Why or why not?
Spiritual Growth Questions
Know someone who’s new to Christianity or struggling with their faith?
These spiritual growth questions are good questions for helping people grow and mature as Jesus’ disciples.
- How do you study the Bible other than just reading it?
- How would you explain the Bible’s reliability to someone?
- How often should we pray?
- Is there anything(s) we’re supposed to pray about? Explain
- Why does God want us to worship Him?
- What does it mean to serve others?
- Do you think we’re all supposed to be serving in some way?
- Does your choice of friends or spouse impact your faith?
- Why or why not?
- What are some ways you share your faith with others?
Do fun questions even need explained?
These are great questions to use as icebreakers or get togethers. There’s sure to be laughter and you’ll certainly not forget the answers you get.
Laughter + unforgotten answers = remembered people!
- What’s the last text you sent?
- If you could only eat one thing for every meal, what would it be and why?
- What was your favorite childhood TV show?
- If you could have any job, what would it be and why?
- What’s one thing you’re most excited about that’s coming up in 2020?
- What’s your most used emoji and why?
- If you could win an Olympic medal for any sport, real or fake, what would it be?
- What would your family say is the most quirky thing about you?
- If you could choose your own nickname, what would it be?
Get to Know You Questions
A mix of serious and fun questions to help you get to know people.
The hardest part of meeting new people is knowing what to say. Pick one or two favorites from the list below and ask it every time you meet a new person. Before you know it you’ll have more friends than you can count.
- When you’re not working, how do you like to spend your time?
- What’s your favorite word and why?
- If you had to change your name, what would you change it to?
- What hidden talents do you have?
- What’s one thing on your bucket list and why?
- What was the worst job you’ve ever had?
- If money weren’t an issue, how would you spend your time?
- How did you choose your current profession?
- Have you ever looked in the mirror and not recognized the person staring back?
Questions for Someone Who’s Struggling
Knowing what to say when people are struggling is one of the hardest things. These questions are designed to dig deep and offer help.
Sometimes struggling people just need to know you’re there. Don’t be afraid to silently sit with them and patiently wait for their replies.
- You don’t seem like yourself today, would you like to chat?
- I’m here to listen and support you. What’s going on right now?
- I can’t imagine how hard what you’re going through must be. Are there things I could help you with?
- Going through this fill-in-blank must be tough. Would you like to meet up and talk about how you’re doing with this?
- With all that’s going on right now, how are you taking care of yourself?
- What small things can you change?
- What big things can you change?
- What are you learning from this fill-in-blank?
- How might this fill-in-blank struggle be able/used to help you?
Empathetic questions acknowledge others pain and reflects you understand.These aren’t easy questions to ask and, like the above set of questions, sometimes require more silent listening than talking.
- How is this fill-in-blank affecting you?
- What do you think the ideal outcome would be?
- What did you learn from the last big challenge God brought you through?
- I heard what happened and wanted to check in and see how you’re doing.
- What do you fear most right now?
- How are you really feeling right now?
- Has something like this ever happened before?
- If so, how did God see you through?
- If not, what are you afraid might happen?
- What are you wanting and needing right now – deep in your heart?
Wow! 108 fun, deep, thoughtful, empathetic, spiritual and more questions to provide you the tools you need for talking with anyone.
Now that you’ve read the questions where are you going to use them? Prayerfully consider who God might want you to use some of the questions from this list with.
Ask the Holy Spirit to help you identify one or two people you can use some of these questions to. It might be a complete stranger, a friend you’ve known for ages, or an acquaintance you’ve been wanting to know better.
When asking questions always remember to keep your ears open and mind and mouth shut.
Yup – I said to keep your mind shut.
If you’re too focused on the next question you want to ask, your mind will be busy thinking of which good question you’re going to ask next.
You know…when you’re mind is so busy thinking about what you’re going to say that you aren’t paying true attention to the other person. You can ask the Holy Spirit to help you keep your mind shut as well.
He’ll help, I promise.
- Ask a question
- Tell your mind and mouth to be quiet
- Focus your ears attentively on the other person and
- Listen with interest
Have fun with these 108 questions and let us know what happens when you start using them in conversations.
I’m praying these questions open doors for new friendships, help walk old friends through hard times, bring fun to everything you do, and above all – show others the love of God.